If you've made up your mind that divorce is the only answer to your marital problems, there's something you need to do: Discuss your thoughts on the future with your spouse.
It's never easy to ask your spouse for a divorce, especially if this person doesn't know your true feelings. Even so, the longer you hold it inside, the more difficulties you'll face when the time finally comes to have this conversation.
Here are five things you can do to effectively ask your spouse for a divorce:
- Have an action plan: You don't want to go into this conversation without an idea of how you'll approach it. An action plan will guide you from start to finish, allowing you to feel confident in every move you make.
- Choose the right time and place: As a sensitive conversation, you need to choose the right time and place to sit down with your spouse. Leave plenty of time in your schedule. Also, make sure your safety and well-being comes first. You may want to choose a public place for this conversation.
- Don't change your mind: There's nothing wrong with hearing out your spouse, but if you know for certain that divorce is what you want, you need to stick with your plan.
- Don't dive into the details of the divorce: You know that divorce will lead to discussions regarding property division, alimony, child support and child custody among other details. You'll work through these things in the future, so you don't need to do so now.
- Stay calm: This is sure to be a difficult conversation, especially if your spouse becomes upset and/or angry. You should remain calm, regardless of how difficult it may be. Getting upset will make matters worse, and could even hold you back from getting your point across.
The way you prepare to ask your spouse for a divorce will have a lot to say about what actually happens when the time comes. Take the right steps and you're well on your way. Conversely, if you make any mistakes, it could slow you down and add more stress to an already challenging situation.
Once you talk to your spouse about divorce and are on the same page, you can learn more about your legal rights and the process to expect moving forward.