Let's face it: Co-parenting is every bit as difficult as it sounds. Even if you have a plan in place, you know that things can and probably will go wrong every now and again.
The best thing you can do is rely on your parenting agreement to keep you on the right track. This is no guarantee that you will never run into trouble, but it can at least give you some peace of mind.
If you have any co-parenting concerns, here are some tips you can follow to help yourself succeed (which will benefit all parties involved):
- Don't just think about yourself. You should also put yourself in the shoes of your children and ex-spouse, as this will help you make better decisions.
- Be flexible when possible. Even though you have a schedule in place, there will be times when flexibility is essential to your success. If the other parent asks for a change, consider if there is a way you can make it work.
- Don't look for a fight. There will be times when you argue with your ex-spouse, but you shouldn't seek out reasons to do so. This won't help anyone, including your children.
- Don't belittle the other parent to your children. As tempted as you may be, this is a mistake you never want to make.
- Respect the time your ex-spouse is spending with your children. For example, you don't want to continually call your children when they are with their other parent.
These are a few of the many things you can do to put yourself in position to succeed at co-parenting. There will be times when you make mistakes. There will also be times when you don't have any choice but to hash things out with the other parent. However, with these tips, you can hopefully avoid a blow-up fight.
As you continue co-parenting your children, don't lose sight of your legal rights as outlined in your parenting agreement. It's these details that help you understand what you can and can't do.